Hey ya’ll,

I am going to jump right to it. A few months ago, my husband and I went to a marriage seminar hosted by a beautiful couple. We had a moment of worship and in that moment, one of the counselors told my husband something that made sense to me today; she told me husband ” The Lord has heard your prayers and knows you want to be the high priest and the leader of your household, but you have no idea how; He has heard you and will direct you. Just continue to seek his face; He will give you all you need.” I will not lie, i rolled my eye so far in the back of my head (lol) because we were not in the best place. When I heard that, in my head, I was like “sis, what you mean he don’t know how to be a high priest in his house.”

However, today (like today, today 12/26/25), I get it and I have a clear understanding on how to pray for my husband. What she was essentially saying was that my husband has to basically learn how to speak another language for HIS house not the love language he learned or saw in his father’s house. He cannot replicate or duplicate the kind of high priest in his house because his wife love language is different than mine. The kind of high priest and head of house he NEEDs to be for me and the kind father he NEEDS to be to our current child and future children; he does not know how to be because what is required of him to be that specific person; mentally, emotionally, phycology is completely different from the person he saw his father be for his mother or he was taught by his environment from a young age what real men do or don’t do. For example, I am a mushy kind of girl, I love the hugs, kisses, cuddles, random booty slaps, holding hands; that is the kind of girl I am, however, my husband is the complete opposite. If I get a random ‘I love you” today, it better hold me down for 3 months because I might not hear it till then lol. It bothered me to the core as to why my husband doesn’t act like that, I started believing that this man doesn’t love or like me. But today it hit me, he has been seeking the Lord on how to become the high for THIS house; how to be the husband God created for him to be for ME, how to become the father he was created to be to OUR daughter and future children. He didn’t grow us seeing his parents be mushy and gooey like that. What he did see, was his father go to work every day and worked HARD to provide for his family, he saw his parents laugh and make fun of each other like they were best friend. What you see you replicate; my husband is a hard worker; he currently works two jobs to provide for his family and he tries to keep the energy lively but it’s hard to do when everyone in the house needs something and that need isn’t being me; the family he created requires something different from the family he came from.

I am not sure when but, he realized that the high priest his father was in his home, isn’t what I require in as his wife. I require (need) an emotional side of him that he is trying to figure out how to tap into. And the funny thing about it, when we first got married, I was a different woman, I thought differently and moved differently but once we had our child, I needed something from my husband that requires for him to stretch and seek God and now that I am on the journey of understanding submission and seeking God to make me the woman He designed me to be and needs me to be for this particular spouse I married, he too has to start seeking the Lord on how to be the husband and high priest he is called and needs to be to his wife, current and future children.

I say all that to say, the person you married from day one isn’t the person they or you will be 3 years from now. If they are doing something you do not like or they are not doing something you would like to for them to do, do trip, don’t fret, dent be like me and assume this is how the person is going to be for the rest of your life; because I guarantee you, however long you are married is nothing compared to “till death do us part”, because we have no idea when that statement will be true (it could be in 15 years or it could be in 45 years; and in that time you and your spouse would have changed so much).

So, I plead of you, give grace because your spouse is trying to figure out how to be the high priest in your home that washes everyone in the house with the word of God, they’re trying to figure out how to pray for you and submit to you and be the spouse they are supposed to be for “specifically” you, “until death do you part.”

Prayer suggestion: Ask God to grant you with patience on this journey, to give you blinders so you can focus on what is in front, help you to see the effort so you can celebrate them. Pray that the Holy Spirit give you this undeniable hunger to submit to the will of God as He molds you into the spouse you were designed to be for your specific person as He continues to impress on your spouse’s heart to submit to God’s will and be the spouse they we designed to be for you before the society spoke something different. Also, pray that the Lord continues to give you fruit of long suffering as you love your spouse through it all.

Alright, have a good night… talk y’all again soon.